Sexual desire is the urge to seek sex or erotic closeness. Spontaneous desire shows up out of the blue. Responsive desire shows up after touch or atmosphere has already started. Plenty of people have the second kind and think they are broken because films only show the first.

Desire is picky. It cares about sleep, fairness in the kitchen, and whether you feel safe being unskilled in front of this person. Hormones lean on it. They do not write the whole script.

You can desire an idea more than a night. You can desire a person and still need a day off. Saying that without a courtroom tone keeps more desire in the house than pretending every evening is available.