Wand massagers started as plug-in back massagers and then found their real audience. A large, heavy head rumbles instead of tickling. Held against the clitoris, a perineum, or even the outside of a cock ring, that rumble can overwhelm a small bullet.

Classic wands are long, corded, and loud. Cordless versions trade a little power for not being tied to the wall. Flexible necks help the head sit flat while the handle rests on the mattress so your hand can quit shaking.

Do not press with your full weight. Let the head sit. A thin cloth between head and skin changes a too-fierce motor into something usable. Tips and sleeves exist to narrow or soften the contact patch. Silicone tips should be washed on and off the head if they trap lint at the collar.

Living with a wand

• A surge protector is kinder than a cheap extension cord.
• Give motors a rest; they heat up.
• A lock switch is worth the extra button.
• Do not dunk a wand unless it was built for water.